Well today was Cyber Monday, and I am overwhelmed. All of this marketing has filled up my email boxes, has distracted me from my day to day work, and I am feeling as if I have missed out on more deals than I actually got. There is a mentality that if you DON’T shop on Black Friday or Cyber Monday, then you are a chump, a fool, an idiot who would rather pay full price. The marketers are very wise, instilling in you a feeling that you MUST HURRY, or you won’t have any friends, you might die tonight, or you will be the brunt of everyone’s jokes. After all, if you don’t take part, you are somehow anti-social and should seek help for your apathy. Wait, What????
Tis the season for deals? I don’t think so. I think it is the season for family, for taking stock, and for celebration. That celebration does not mean spending all of your money. It doesn’t mean that you are somehow mentally ill if you don’t “buy in.”
So my advice is to remember why we are really celebrating. Think of who you want to be with, and how you want to be with them. If you have to buy these friends and family with lots of holiday presents, maybe it is time to find new friends, and divorce from some family for the holidays. Yes it is controversial! Yes it may even seem unrealistic. But do you really want to go into debt to buy gifts most people won’t even remember you gave them in 6 months? Chances are, you will be still paying for those gifts long after they have been forgotten.
I don’t know about you, but I would like to propose that we step back, analyze and decide what we want for the holidays. I want down time, peace, fun, and love. I really do.
Lynne Patnode is a jewelry artist who creates one of a kind jewelry that connects people with nature. You can find her jewelry in her Etsy Shop.